Day 24: What qualities do you look for in a partner?
When I seek out a play partner now, it usually has to do with some specific type of play that I am interested in, so I am not actually looking for specific qualities in that person the way I might if I was seeking a new partner. I don’t know if I have the time, energy or desire to seek out a new partner in that way. Usually what I am looking for now is some type of play that I am curious about or want to experience, and even that phrase, “looking for” is basically incorrect, as I don’t necessarily seek out new play partners, I just run across someone that does a certain thing and I decide I would like to play with them based on that, not the other way around.
But okay, what qualities would I look for, if I were to seek a new partner. Self-respect. Honesty. Self-control. Self-confidence. Intelligence. Someone with a healthy dose of curiosity in the world around him/her. An ability – and willingness – to feel, passionately, deeply. Someone that communicates well. Someone with interests outside my own. Someone with the ability to laugh at themselves. Someone who isn’t afraid of love or to love. Someone with an interest in BDSM (yes this is a necessity. No more vanillas for me.) Someone with a strong sex drive, but who isn’t driven by sex. Someone who isn’t afraid to take chances, but who accepts that sometimes things just don’t work. An adult, not a child. Someone that takes responsibility for their own actions.
Not really much different than I look for in my friends, now that I think of it.
