Of Sex with Strangers, Triggers & Doing the Right Thing

There’s something to be said for playing with partners that know you, know your body and your triggers, know how to push you in just the right way and what buttons to push; that know how to please you (even when that pleasing involves some not-so-pleasing things.) A lot of…

Basement Girl

“You’re a basement girl,” he says, as he takes me by the hand and leads me down the rickety wooden stairs. “This is where you belong.” He ties me to a post by my wrists in the back of the basement. There are wooden slats back here, and boards, and…

In which the Missy does her part to spread poly goodness to the vanilla masses. Or at least her Stepmom’s friends.

The Missy and I had dinner last night after she and I went to get her industrial piercing. Which, btw, looks awesome. And during which the subject of my own piercings never came up (I took her to Courtney at Cheap Trx, who did all mine.) Anyway, while eating yummy…

Post-Twisted Tryst: I’m Back!

We’re back from Tryst!  I’ve sat here at my laptop several times since we got back Sunday night, meaning to update ya’ll on our trip, but I’ve been fuzzy since we got back, and sooo unable to concentrate, so I’ve kept myself to making lists: what I did, what I…

Sunday with the Missy

This past Sunday I got to spend nearly the whole day with my daughter. She and the Boychild made me breakfast in bed and then– Oh wait. I didn’t actually wake up in my bed. Ad and I got home around 9:30 am after having stayed over at W’s the…

Journeys, cont. – Needs

I recognize in myself a need to be able to contain things (things being a euphemism for the discomfort of this anxiety/emotional turmoil/upheaval) in boxes, so that I can manage and deal with them in small pieces. I also recognize this is not always conducive to allowing situations to happen…

Journeys – Where I’m At

I had this rather longish post that I was working on, talking about the learning process I am going through, as I discover and assess what I need to be comfortable in what we are doing. And I realized…I just probably won’t ever really get there: comfort. Ease. There isn’t…

Journeys, continued – Perceptions

I apologize in advance for anyone seeing this twice.  Yesterday, when I wrote this, was a high emotion day for me – as W calls it, a day of “free-floating” anxiety. I realized after I had initially posted this that much of what I was feeling was colored by that,…

Journeys

Jealousy, envy, insecurity, possessiveness, fear – these are topics that are discussed, analyzed, questioned, struggled with and pondered over by people that identify as poly/open in their relationship structures. Some feel it, some don’t. Some deal with it effectively; some can’t. Many, many of us struggle with it. Including me.…

From the Drafts Folder: W’s Choice – Open Hand Slap

I recently sent a note over to W: “I have all these Draft posts and I am so overwhelmed, there is so much good in here but I don’t know where to start. Help?” So he did, agreeing to assign me one Draft post at a time to work on…